Forced Positivity in the Abuse of Forgiveness

Some people find it hard to forgive because they were never given any other choice. Forgiveness was the noose tightened around their neck, choking their voice. After the strike to the face, the blow in the gut, and the tarnishing of their name, They were told they must forgive if they were truly good, or else live in perpetual shame. …

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Everybody’s Preaching Something, Don’t Be Naive

Loss has a way of bringing so many things to light. This is what I find myself pondering as I recall so much of what I learned from my father, who passed away recently (may Allah have mercy on him). When I was growing up, my father didn’t allow my siblings or me to watch television and movies simply as …

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No Calls, No Visits: A Bipolar Muslim Woman’s Story

Did you know that July is Minority Mental Health Awareness Month? The following is an excerpt from the true story, No One Taught Me the Human Side of Islam: The Muslim Hippie’s Story of Living with Bipolar Disorder: Sakinah ‘The Muslim Hippie’ says: My friend Halimah wasn’t the only one who overhead me being talked about negatively in the Muslim …

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We Need Leaders Protecting Us, Not Their Pride

Where are the men? They are scowling at me for my “wrong” hijab. SubhaanAllah! Where are the men? They are criticizing me for fearing Allah on my job. O Allah! Where are the men? They are making jokes about me and the suffering I’ve endured. Yaa Rabb! Where are the men? They are shaking hands and patting each other on …

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Ignorant People Annoy Me Too…But

“I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who abandons arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent.” —Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him (Sunan Abu Dawud …

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Nobody Cares About Black Muslims, He Said

alone. it hurts. I cannot lie to be abandoned by those who look like me because I see the other as brethren too and then to be abandoned by the other my brethren in faith. because I look like me —even if. The following is an excerpt from the book Prejudice Bones in My Body by Umm Zakiyyah: The first …

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When Religion Is a Weapon: Understanding Spiritual Abuse

emotional abuse. the etiquette of disagreement in cults and sects and in families who love you so much that they hurt you for their own good. —even if. The following is an excerpt from Reverencing the Wombs That BROKE You by Umm Zakiyyah: Spiritual abuse is arguably the least talked about form of abuse. However, in religious families and communities, …

Stop Recruiting Members and Start Saving Souls

The following is an excerpt from Prejudice Bones in My Body: Essays on Muslim Racism, Bigotry and Spiritual Abuse by Umm Zakiyyah: When I feared I could no longer be Muslim, I just couldn’t take it anymore, all the pressure from every side. It was unrelenting, and it eventually became a part of me. I felt suffocated in my own …

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Prejudice Bones in My Body

  alone. it hurts. I cannot lie to be abandoned by those who look like me because I see the other as brethren too and then to be abandoned by the other my brethren in faith. because I look like me —even if. The following is an excerpt from the book Prejudice Bones in My Body: Essays on Muslim Racism, …