Stop Recruiting Members and Start Saving Souls

The following is an excerpt from Prejudice Bones in My Body: Essays on Muslim Racism, Bigotry and Spiritual Abuse by Umm Zakiyyah: When I feared I could no longer be Muslim, I just couldn’t take it anymore, all the pressure from every side. It was unrelenting, and it eventually became a part of me. I felt suffocated in my own …

Prejudice Bones in My Body

  alone. it hurts. I cannot lie to be abandoned by those who look like me because I see the other as brethren too and then to be abandoned by the other my brethren in faith. because I look like me —even if. The following is an excerpt from the book Prejudice Bones in My Body: Essays on Muslim Racism, …

I Didn’t Become Muslim To Be Abused, She Said

boundaries. you give them an inch, and they take your soul. —even if.  There were many moments that my heart hurt as I sat listening to Sakinah “The Muslim Hippie” recount the painful experiences that she shared with me for the book No One Taught Me the Human Side of Islam: The Muslim Hippie’s Story of Living with Bipolar Disorder. …

Do-Gooders Spreading Hate in Name of Love and Tolerance

“I love everyone!” Till today, hearing this gives me anxiety, no matter who says it. I’ve never known anyone to say this except that they caused so much hurt and harm, to me and others. And the only thing that this false belief guaranteed was that there was no self-reflection or self-correction afterward. For “love” needs neither analysis nor change. …

Soul Mates in Emotional Wounding

“Abusers often operate by manipulating you with what they’ve done for you. Someone’s good deeds to you NEVER gives them the excuse to abuse you. So do not allow them to make you feel bad for removing yourself from their presence due to what they’ve done for you. All good ultimately is from God and people are simply the vector. …

Not Sure You Were Abused? You Can Still Heal

“You can make a million excuses for the one who hurt you, but you’d still have to tend to the wound.” —PAIN. From the Journal of Umm Zakiyyah Some people don’t like the word abuse, and I get it. In fact, I’ve been there. It’s really difficult to accept such a horrific label being used to describe what happened to …

God Doesn’t Hate Gay People? Find a Better Argument

“Emotional abusers are masters at turning their sins into your wrongs. Your every complaint, disagreement, or expression of concern is now about you not showing them enough love, compassion, or respect. And as soon as they fear that others will see their wrongdoing for what it is, they play victim and accuse you of hurting them in some way. These …

Do I Have the Right To Exist?

“I have felt at times that I didn’t have the right to exist. Almost everything I was taught about being a ‘good Muslim’ meant living in denial of myself.” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah “You have too much confidence in yourself,” a community “auntie” told me once, and from her condescending tone, I knew she meant it in the …

Life Is Unfair, So Islam Is Unjust?

“And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, [and likewise] for women there is reward for what they earned. And ask Allah of His Bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.” —Qur’an (Al-Nisaa, The Women) 4:32 I resented my husband. It …

When Muslims Wrong You ‘For the Sake of Allah’

“There will come a time when holding on to your emaan (Islamic faith) will be like holding on to hot coals.” —Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him (Tirmidhi) I never knew that the hot coals in my hand would be enflamed by my very own brothers and sisters in faith. I never knew that I would live in a world surrounded …