Do We Care What Allah Wants For Us?

“No,” the sister said indignantly. “I’m not going to pray about this because I know Allah will make it happen. And I don’t care if it’s good for me. I don’t want it, period. And I shouldn’t have to deal with it if I don’t want to.” I grew quiet, as I realized that there was no further advice I …

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We’re Not Muslim Just Because We Say We Are

“I’m really worried about my brother,” the Arab woman said. “He’s Muslim, but he doesn’t believe in God anymore.” Listening to her, I really didn’t know what to say. Before this moment, I’d had occasional encounters with people who labeled themselves “Muslim” but did not pray or fast or fulfill any other foundational requirements of being Muslim. However, it was …

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How ‘Good People’ End Up Destroying Lives and Souls

“The tongue, O Allah, the tongue! Protect me from it, even as it moves in broken rhythm with my own troubled heart.” —excerpt of FAITH. From the Journal of Umm Zakiyyah “She obviously thinks it’s perfectly fine to break apart marriages, support friends backstabbing each other, and dismiss the rights of women.” The words were from a sister of mine—a …

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You Own No Heart or Life, But Your Own

“And all those worldly comforts and human relationships you thought you couldn’t live without? They were just temporary companions on your life journey.” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah You cannot control another human being, and you cannot own another human being. And you have no ultimate responsibility or burden for any life or soul other than your own. Understanding …

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The Other Side of Hurt: It’s Not About You

No one should have to apologize for taking care of themselves. This is something that took me a long time to realize and embrace in my life, and I’m still striving to do better at avoiding saying “I’m sorry” for taking care of myself during a time that people deem inconvenient for themselves, or when they feel my absence proves …

Shukr, Teaching Your Hurting Heart Gratefulness

O Allah! I have wronged my soul, so forgive me. I have forgotten myself, so pardon me. I have become frustrated and distressed, so have mercy on me. O Allah! I deserve nothing of Your goodness, yet You shower it upon me. I have doubted You in times of darkness, yet You gifted me with light.  I have stood before …

Forced Positivity in the Abuse of Forgiveness

Some people find it hard to forgive because they were never given any other choice. Forgiveness was the noose tightened around their neck, choking their voice. After the strike to the face, the blow in the gut, and the tarnishing of their name, They were told they must forgive if they were truly good, or else live in perpetual shame. …