Stop Recruiting Members and Start Saving Souls

The following is an excerpt from Prejudice Bones in My Body: Essays on Muslim Racism, Bigotry and Spiritual Abuse by Umm Zakiyyah: When I feared I could no longer be Muslim, I just couldn’t take it anymore, all the pressure from every side. It was unrelenting, and it eventually became a part of me. I felt suffocated in my own …

Prejudice Bones in My Body

  alone. it hurts. I cannot lie to be abandoned by those who look like me because I see the other as brethren too and then to be abandoned by the other my brethren in faith. because I look like me —even if. The following is an excerpt from the book Prejudice Bones in My Body: Essays on Muslim Racism, …

I Didn’t Become Muslim To Be Abused, She Said

boundaries. you give them an inch, and they take your soul. —even if.  There were many moments that my heart hurt as I sat listening to Sakinah “The Muslim Hippie” recount the painful experiences that she shared with me for the book No One Taught Me the Human Side of Islam: The Muslim Hippie’s Story of Living with Bipolar Disorder. …

Do-Gooders Spreading Hate in Name of Love and Tolerance

“I love everyone!” Till today, hearing this gives me anxiety, no matter who says it. I’ve never known anyone to say this except that they caused so much hurt and harm, to me and others. And the only thing that this false belief guaranteed was that there was no self-reflection or self-correction afterward. For “love” needs neither analysis nor change. …

Kaafir, the New F-word

“While there are certainly real extremists and bigots who call themselves Muslim and set out to harm and mistreat those who live a different life path, you should not waste your energy trying to convince the world that you are not amongst them. Yes, whenever you get the opportunity, clarify the real teachings of your faith, most specifically the prohibitions …

God Wants You To Accept Abuse, They Say

emotional abuse. the etiquette of disagreement in cults and sects and in families who love you so much that they hurt you for their own good. —even if. The following is an excerpt from Reverencing the Wombs That Broke You by Umm Zakiyyah: In toxic, dysfunctional, and abusive families that identify closely with religion, continuously subjecting oneself to harm is …

Hijab Is About Men’s Sexual Desires, He Said

original sin. we women somehow fall into it even if we’ve done no wrong because it is our job they say to protect men and not the other way around. —even if. When I wrote the blog, “Is Discussing Hijab Off Limits?” I shared my personal struggles with how the topic of hijab is so often mishandled, specifically with the …

Is Discussing Hijab Off Limits?

Overcoming Sexualizing Muslim Women hijab. maybe they don’t know— that there’s a soul beneath all these clothes. —even if. By far, one of the most difficult experiences I faced in hijab was when I made the decision to wear niqaab (the face veil). As I discussed in my post “I’m Taking Off This Veil!” this decision exposed me to a …

Soul Mates in Emotional Wounding

“Abusers often operate by manipulating you with what they’ve done for you. Someone’s good deeds to you NEVER gives them the excuse to abuse you. So do not allow them to make you feel bad for removing yourself from their presence due to what they’ve done for you. All good ultimately is from God and people are simply the vector. …

Not Sure You Were Abused? You Can Still Heal

“You can make a million excuses for the one who hurt you, but you’d still have to tend to the wound.” —PAIN. From the Journal of Umm Zakiyyah Some people don’t like the word abuse, and I get it. In fact, I’ve been there. It’s really difficult to accept such a horrific label being used to describe what happened to …