“No,” the sister said indignantly. “I’m not going to pray about this because I know Allah will make it happen. And I don’t care if it’s good for me. I don’t want it, period. And I shouldn’t have to deal with it if I don’t want to.” I grew quiet, as I realized that there was no further advice I …
Focus On More Important Things, They Say
“We should be talking about more important things!” No matter what topic I (or my brothers and sisters in da’wah) speak about, this is the typical response. I think on this now because a friend of mine recently sent me a post where a Muslim called the topic of homosexuality “stupid” to be concerned about, even if the concern is …
We’re Not Muslim Just Because We Say We Are
“I’m really worried about my brother,” the Arab woman said. “He’s Muslim, but he doesn’t believe in God anymore.” Listening to her, I really didn’t know what to say. Before this moment, I’d had occasional encounters with people who labeled themselves “Muslim” but did not pray or fast or fulfill any other foundational requirements of being Muslim. However, it was …
Is Your Humility Making You Arrogant?
“The thing about sincerity is you have to learn it, even when the world is watching. You just have to teach your heart that Allah is watching.” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah Several years ago I was invited to a social gathering for Muslim women at a friend’s home. When it was time for Maghrib prayer, the hostess asked …
Are You Pleased with Allah As Your Lord?
Abdullah ibn Amr reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “None of you has [true] faith until his desires comply with what I have brought.” —Al-Sunnah li-Ibn Abī ‘Āṣim 14, Sahih by Al-Nawawi Are you pleased with Allah as your Lord? This is a question that hit my heart as I was reciting the morning and …
He Apologized? We Have No Idea What an Apology Means
“An apology, if it is truly an apology, is no more than a hope and a prayer—that the damage you’ve done can be repaired, and that you will be forgiven by both your Lord and the ones you’ve wronged. An apology should never be shared for the purpose of silencing or dismissing those hurt by the original transgression. If it …
How ‘Good People’ End Up Destroying Lives and Souls
“The tongue, O Allah, the tongue! Protect me from it, even as it moves in broken rhythm with my own troubled heart.” —excerpt of FAITH. From the Journal of Umm Zakiyyah “She obviously thinks it’s perfectly fine to break apart marriages, support friends backstabbing each other, and dismiss the rights of women.” The words were from a sister of mine—a …
You Own No Heart or Life, But Your Own
“And all those worldly comforts and human relationships you thought you couldn’t live without? They were just temporary companions on your life journey.” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah You cannot control another human being, and you cannot own another human being. And you have no ultimate responsibility or burden for any life or soul other than your own. Understanding …
Shukr, Teaching Your Hurting Heart Gratefulness
O Allah! I have wronged my soul, so forgive me. I have forgotten myself, so pardon me. I have become frustrated and distressed, so have mercy on me. O Allah! I deserve nothing of Your goodness, yet You shower it upon me. I have doubted You in times of darkness, yet You gifted me with light. I have stood before …
Forced Positivity in the Abuse of Forgiveness
Some people find it hard to forgive because they were never given any other choice. Forgiveness was the noose tightened around their neck, choking their voice. After the strike to the face, the blow in the gut, and the tarnishing of their name, They were told they must forgive if they were truly good, or else live in perpetual shame. …