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Racism Is Trauma, But We Are People Too

equal opportunity. satan doesn’t discriminate he believes in equality for all black white male female rich or poor he cares not— so long as hell is filled with us all. —excerpt of even if. by Umm Zakiyyah Like so many other survivors of daily racism, I’ve recently retreated into my personal space to take care of my heart and soul—and …

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First, Remove the Chains from Your Heart

“No, we are not all in the same boat. We are all in the same storm. There is a huge difference.” —via @bilqeesquick (Instagram) How can I help? so many ask. Start by understanding what boat you’re really in. But that’s only possible if you first understand the storms of your own heart and soul—and the hidden chains keeping you …

No, We Don’t Have To Forgive You

today. we must protect ourselves from our protectors. citizens from officers laypeople from scholars children from parents women from men wives from husbands husbands from wives and our souls         from ourselves. —excerpt of even if. by Umm Zakiyyah The other day I read this post online, and it immediately hit my heart: Sometimes people pretend you’re a bad person …

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Today I Feel More Peace in My Heart

“On the Day you shall see the believing men and the believing women their light running forward before them and by their right hands. [Their greeting will be]: ‘Glad tidings for you this Day! Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise), to dwell therein forever! Truly, this is the great success!’” —Qur’an (Al-Hadeed, 57:12) Today I feel more peace in my …

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Dear Survivor, Choose Yourself: Healing in Solitude (Day 8)

“Why is it always the ones inflicting the harm that trivialize the extent of the wound?” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah The “Healing in Solitude” reflections offer a glimpse into the heart of Umm Zakiyyah, as she continues her emotional healing journey during the social distancing lockdown amidst the coronavirus epidemic. Each journal reflection represents a “new day” in …

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Unwrapping a Hidden Gift: Healing in Solitude (Day 6)

“…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah knows, while you know not.” —Qur’an (Al-Baqarah, 2:216) The “Healing in Solitude” reflections offer a glimpse into the heart of Umm Zakiyyah, as she continues her emotional healing journey during the social distancing lockdown …

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Suffering As Purification: Healing in Solitude (Day 5)

“Suffering is a means of purification. Solitude is a means of clarification. And loss—whether of companionship, wealth, or even comfort itself—is a means of enrichment. It is a gift.” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah The “Healing in Solitude” reflections offer a glimpse into the heart of Umm Zakiyyah, as she continues her emotional healing journey during the social distancing …

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A Seat In My Restless Soul: Healing in Solitude (Day 2)

“Pain is a color. I realize that now. It’s the color of life. Or maybe it’s the canvas. But either way, I’m going to try to paint some strokes of love, patience and gratitude in the foreground.” —from the journal of Umm Zakiyyah The “Healing in Solitude” reflections offer a glimpse into the heart of Umm Zakiyyah, as she continues …

Let’s Be Honest with Ourselves During This Time

The other day I read a post about how people who are healing from emotional trauma and abusive relationships have been practicing social distancing and isolation for many years now. This is the “survival mode” they’ve had to implement to protect themselves from toxic environments and relationships. But what happens when the toxic environment is within us, and what happens …

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How To Nourish Your Mind, Heart and Soul During This Time

“Therefore remember Me. I will remember you, and be grateful to Me, and do not disbelieve [or show ungratefulness by refusing sincere submission].” —Qur’an (Al-Baqarah, 2:152) Years ago when I was in college, I remember studying about how the body and mind instinctively react to fear and pain, and how they constantly seek comfort and peace—even if that comfort or …